Sex, Love and Marriage

I wrote this post in 2012 and I am republishing as my first post on my new blog. I have not been perfect in my relationships and pursuit of my wife, but I try to live this out on a daily basis. 

I remember anticipating one Christmas day. This was no ordinary Christmas day, no, this year brought my biggest gift yet. This gift was no surprise, I knew exactly what I wanted, but I knew I could not have it till that Christmas day, so I waited (And they say kids have no patience). The thought of my gift kept me up during the night, distracted during the day and absolutely consumed with joy by its full potential. I knew this gift would change my world forever.

Throughout my time of waiting, my grandma would buy me dollar store toys that were the generic brands of the one I was going to receive. She could not afford the name brand toy so I was given the ones that were made of cheap plastic and other materials. They would break down frequently and I was never really satisfied with the temporary fix to my great desire. 

So day after day, I practiced patience and self control as I anxiously waited for my gift. Everyday I had to give up the temptations of generic brands for the real deal. The more I held out, the more I would enjoy my gift, I knew that truth.

And I still know that truth. Like the biggest gift of my childhood, marriage is the biggest gift of my adulthood. I look forward to the day I get to marry my wife. While I do not know who she is, I live according to her today. In many ways you can say I am already in love with my wife and I am fully committed to her. There are nights when she keeps me up, days where I'm distracted by her and I am absolutely consumed by the joy of our full potential. I know that when I marry my wife she will complete me. She will change my world forever. I want to get to know her and grow with her. I am absolutely ecstatic about my relationship with her.  

There will always be the temptation of sleeping with other women and finding a replacement for my future wife. But the temporary fix is never going to fulfill my desire to be loved and love her. So I hold off with sex until I marry my wife. I do not want to mess this up. 

Everyday I practice patience and self control as I anticipate my beautiful wife. Everyday I have to give up the temptation of other women for the real deal. Everyday I pursue my wife whole heartedly. 

Many people have it backwards. They have sex first, because that's what its all about right???? How many girls can you get?? or Guys???? Then they try love and end up butchering marriage (and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high). I challenge you to switch it up a little bit; build the relationship first, grow in love with that person, get married and then have sex. Sex is only a portion of what true marriage is. When you find love with a someone, someone who makes you more you, someone you have an unbreakable chemistry with, someone who you are a team with, a helper, a leader, your support, your best friend, someone who you cannot live without, someone you would lay your life down for, sex becomes a plus....just a bonus (a pretty good bonus of course) 

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